Infinite wisdom can be found in the art of surrender. However, few of us are actually good at it. In our self-centered, competitive, never-stop culture, we find fighting to be much more natural than surrendering.
Whereas surrender brings serenity, fighting against one’s life and one’s self ultimately leads to unhappiness. I am not saying that you should not strive for a better life or improve yourself; if you have the opportunity and the ability to, then you ought to do so, but if you expend enormous energy resenting the life you have, then you would do better to surrender. After all, as the saying goes, what you resist persists. The more energy you put into getting rid of something, often the greater a problem it becomes. If, however, you can accept a problem in your life, even to the point of accepting that it will never go away, you oftentimes are then in a better place to deal with it. It’s counterintuitive but true.
How many of us spend all our days fighting ourselves? Our inner self-talk tells us that we’re not rich enough or good-looking enough or smart enough. We find it difficult to be okay with who we are and instead wage war on ourselves. Of course, you ought to wage war with your sins and faults, but what if we practiced acceptance when we came to the things we simply dislike about ourselves? How different our lives would become if we were to practice regular, compassionate self-talk!
Another way to practice surrendering is to practice outcome independence. Outcome independence is being okay with something regardless of the outcome. It’s about doing something because it’s worth doing, not because you know you will succeed. It’s about taking risk. Ultimately, outcome independence is freedom.